It’s been a long time since I experienced missing someone – the way you miss someone when you know you will never get to see them again.
But the other day I was reminded of it, even if it was but a tiny shadow of how that would feel years ago. And that’s what led to this insight:
Now, given what kind of loss you and I have experienced, this may seem silly:
I was reminded of how it is to miss someone because my cat has moved out. Or rather, I moved her, knowing that I will be traveling, not just in the near future, but long term, and in ways I cannot plan for. Even if someone may be living here in the meantime, I couldn’t let the cat depend on it, so I had to find a new home for her.
I was unbelievably lucky with that and the cat is happy where she is. And so am I – I’m happy for her. But what to do in those surprising moments when I miss that special cat presence of her? Well, as I felt it, I was inspired to change my perspective, exactly the way I suggest you do above.
It’s amazing how our entire energy flow can change with one tiny shift.
Even if there is a huge difference between missing an animal friend and missing a partner with whom you shared everything for years, this way to approach the longing is equally valid, and helpful.
It is a way to step out of the past (that you cannot replay the way you can this video) and into the presence of your gratitude.
At the end of the day, gratitude is a way of being present with the joy in your heart – and perhaps one of the most fulfilling ways of being available to us.