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Love Yourself Solo Soul! Here’s Your Why and Your How

Love Yourself SoloI remember feeling that way once and I remember the first time a coaching client expressed it: “I can see how self-love is important, but I have no idea how to feel it and how to make it a practice in my life“. 

Most of us have learned that love is something outside of us. Most of us have developed the belief that we don’t deserve love. Most of us no longer know how to live from self-love.

So I thought that today I’d give you a few big reasons why you so deserve love – your love too!

The idea is not to convince you though. The idea is to, remind you and ignite you to make self-love a priority in your life. Or, better still, the priority. The next step then will be finding out how exactly:

I’m sure this is not the first time you hear about loving yourself.  You know how important it is.  But there can be quite a distance from knowing it to feeling it and from feeling it to living it.  

On that note, I wanted to give you a few reasons, if you need that, to love yourself more.  

1: You are a unique Being 

Think about it: On this planet with billions of people, you are the only one of a kind!   You might have things in common, as I’m sure you have, with many others in different ways; but there’s no one else like you here. Isn’t that AMAZING?  Imagine that…  Just one of you in the entire world!

2: You are invaluable

The fact that you are unique, the mere fact that you are here makes you absolutely invaluable!  

In that sense, you don’t have to do anything, you don’t have to be anything (other than just being you). You simply being here is of infinite value! 

3: You are the authentic you

Because there’s only one of you and because you are invaluable, it gives you both a permission and, in a sense, an obligation to be the authentic you in every way you can.  

Because nothing else really makes sense.  I mean, we can play roles, and we do, it’s part of communicating with other people, it’s part of relating to other people or other cultures; but at the end of the day, you are here to be you, to be the one and only authentic you.  

4: You have special gifts

And then, on top of that, on top of being this invaluable, unique human being, you also have some special gifts. You bring them to this world by being you, but also by cultivating these gifts.  

Now obviously, I don’t know what these gifts are and it can also take time to find them and to refine them. They can change and unfold along the way, but they are definitely here, so let them shine!

5: Your expression is essential

We express ourselves all the time in countless ways and just like being the authentic you, expressing yourself is absolutely crucial– not just because it is your contribution to the world (which it is!) but also because the more you can express yourself, authentically, the more you will experience that everything falls into place, that you are in the right place, and that your gifts shine and reach other people, whatever these gifts are.  

Your gifts and your expression can be something very special and it can also be something that you don’t think is special at all – but it is! 

6: Your contribution makes the world fall into place

Think of this world of ours as a gigantic puzzle. You are one very special “piece” in that puzzle. The more you fall into place within (lovingly) and become yourself the more the entire world falls into place!

This is because all the other “pieces” that are around you, whether you know them personally or not, are connected with you, and as you fall into place so can they. And so, everything begins to fall into place as you do.

Isn’t that a BEAUTIFUL puzzle…  

Thank you for being the miracle that you are!

Thank you for being here! 

I invite you to love yourself wholeheartedly and genuinely and in every possible way, in your thoughts and in your feelings and certainly also in your actions, in the way you are with yourself every day.

But how, you may ask?


Please share your experiences and thoughts below – and then share the post. Someone out there will be glad you did…

Thank you!

2 comments… add one
  • Graeme Cunningham February 18, 2016, 6:36 pm

    I’m 58 years old. I’ve had brain surgery twice and I’m still suffering badly and probably always will.

    I’ve had type one insulin-dependant diabetes since childhood (for 48 years)
    My diabetes will kill me if my brain disease doesn’t. The combination of the 2 will kill me in a very bad way with a lot of suffering.

    • Halina February 18, 2016, 7:23 pm

      Dear Graeme,

      Whenever you have clarity and energy for it, focus it on loving yourself.
      Love is the greatest healer of all. It may not affect the illness but it could affect the way you experience the illness and the pain.


      PS: I have also emailed you at your .net email address

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