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The door to joy and learning to open it – whenever you want to

The Door to JoyUPDATE: The SEE Approach that this post refers to is included with coaching programs only.

When I was in my early forties, I experienced the most dramatic breakthrough of my entire life so far.

What came out of it is an approach that ultimately lets you move through any difficulty, any pain, any challenge and into joy.

The approach is so transformational and yet so deceptively simple that I never felt comfortable sharing it with others except as part of a coaching program. And, to be honest, I’m still in doubt if I should. So I’m writing to ask if you’d be interested in getting it and learning how to use it?

At the end of this post there is a button where you can sign up if you want me to proceed with this and make it available for you.  But first, I want you to know:

How I found it

Back when I was in my twenties and haunted by chronic loneliness and all kinds of emotional pain, I believed that if only I could understand what was ‘wrong’ with me I could somehow figure out how to fix myself. But as I found out ‘understanding’ didn’t bring me the relief nor the joy not to mention the love that I hoped for.

I then spent another 20 years or so exploring multiple modalities in terms of therapy, healing, inner work and bodywork as well as a multitude of personal development tools, spiritual development tools – all kinds of tools. They all provided some relief and contributed to my life getting better…but not the lasting sense of love, joy and freedom that I so yearned for.

Times and times again I would lose my way and find myself down on my knees, overwhelmed by pain, feeling helpless… And then I would grab one of those many tools I’ve learned how to use, and with that another straw of hope… And in this way I was able to rise again, somehow, and then go on with my life, the best I could, with some good days there and more bad days and nights… But only until I was taken back to square one, again.

It looked like I could go on like that forever. As it turned out, I couldn’t. The day came when I just couldn’t find anything in me, or outside, to help me rise again.

I’ll never forget that day

I was lying on the floor, crushed by the intensity of loneliness, helplessness and just pure pain –  and this time I didn’t even try to do anything about it.

I knew I had already tried everything and I knew nothing would help. I would always get back to this hell — I’ve experienced it too many times to be able to deny the fact. I was out of hope, out of tools, out of everything. There was nothing I could do, other than suffer. That’s how it looked.

In that moment of complete resignation, where the pain in my body, mind and soul was at its very highest and I knew there was nothing I could do but watch…

“You know, the smallest thing can change a life. In the blink of an eye, something happens by chance – and when you least expect it – since we’re on a course that you could have never planned, into a future you never imagined. Where will it take you? That’s the journey of our lives: our search for the light. But sometimes, finding the light means you must past through the deepest darkness.” ― Nicholas Sparks

A miracle

[It’s impossible to describe in words – these are just notes. But I hope you get the impression.]

It felt like being taken out of the reality I knew. It felt like grace. It was grace.

It took less than a second: One moment my entire being, my soul and my body was flooded in pain. The next moment I was in perfect bliss. Literally.

Everything was love. Everything was light. Everything was joy. Everything was belonging.

I felt completely embraced and permeated by love and by light. There was nothing else. Nothing but love, light and joy.

This first experience lasted for only a few hours

As much as I wanted to hold on to it (and I wanted it so much!), I couldn’t.

Even if I knew now that this state was real and in this way possible to enter into, I had already locked myself out of it, as if it never happened! I was staring at a closed door and no matter how much I pushed, prayed or hammered, it remained closed.

But the story doesn’t end here.

Even if this experience was followed by weeks (and later on, months) in darkness, suddenly one day it happened again. I was in!

But again, only for a short while. After that, I was out in the cold again.

And so, once again I seemed to be trapped in a cycle, even if this time it included moments of pure bliss.

Except, I was not trapped. Rather, I was being shown something, again and again and again, until I finally was able to see it.

DoorknobFiguratively speaking, that closed door that I was staring at had a door knob there. You know, that simple thing that is so easy to turn, with no force at all… There’s nothing sophisticated about the mechanics of it. You just need to reach out, turn it and the door opens. It’s as simple as that.

For me, that door knob was a specific mental/emotional state. Along the way, I learned that I didn’t have to wait until I was so desperate or so resigned that I entered that state spontaneously. I learned to take myself into that state consciously. 

Now, this doesn’t mean that I’ve been soaring in constant bliss ever since – although from the perspective of who I was back then I probably am. It’s just that it has become the new normal for me. And of course, I  still do encounter challenges at times – that’s part of life on Earth. It helps us unfold.  But even when challenged, whenever I’m mindful of it and willing to open that door, now I can reconnect with joy and love regardless.

This has changed my life and my path forever, and continues to do so. 

While I have tried sharing it as is, I have found that to achieve the ultimate results with it, coaching assistance is necessary. This is why I no longer offer the SEE Approach as stand alone program but rather make it part of long-term transformational work. If this is something you’re considering (and even if you’re not sure at all), you’re invited to a free Discovery Session with me .

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